Re-inventing Ourselves
Feb. 28th, 2017 08:11 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
filkferengiAfter 12 years, my spouse has quit his baseball league. There was nothing wrong with the guys or anything, but the game had just gotten less fun for him. Why pay lots of money and drive an hour & more each way, if it's not fun?
I guess it just didn't fit him anymore, like clothes that fit fine in former years, but our shape has changed, and they're not as comfortable anymore. It's another way he's re-inventing himself, like I do every few years.
It's different things that change up, over time: the cons I go to, books I read, colors of clothes I prefer wearing. Bujold's a constant, of course, but most other things are, as Anne McCaffrey used to say, "subject to change without notice."
Some recent examples, just for giggles. My bridesmaid the kindergarten teacher got me looking for kid books for her, & it turns out lots of my favorite authors have written them. I'm slowly working through the 5 boxes of them in the house [down from 7 boxes]. I'm wearing lots more in the light blue-turquoise-teal range these days; they bring out my "naturally blond" [i.e., silvering] hair. I'm trying out some new conventions, and ditching others.
Then there's medical fun, enough for the whole class: diabetes, high blood pressure, thyroid meds, arthritis meds, the recent root canal [6 parts; apparently I'm now a Rocky franchise ;(], the finally-over 3-week bronchial inconvenience. Then there's the blood pressure med that makes me sun-sensitive. No problem in fall & winter, but what in the worlds will I do about walks in the 7 months of summer we have here? I sweat too much to wear sunscreen on my face. I have a lovely, wide hat [that amplifies my voice, with acoustic weirdness], but would rather not live with sweaty, flat hat hair for months on end. Still, if it means getting our walks in, I'll be doing it. I'd not miss those.
All in all, a transitional, liminal time, with some definite inconveniences, but also some promising possibilities.
How are y'all re-inventing yourselves these days?
I guess it just didn't fit him anymore, like clothes that fit fine in former years, but our shape has changed, and they're not as comfortable anymore. It's another way he's re-inventing himself, like I do every few years.
It's different things that change up, over time: the cons I go to, books I read, colors of clothes I prefer wearing. Bujold's a constant, of course, but most other things are, as Anne McCaffrey used to say, "subject to change without notice."
Some recent examples, just for giggles. My bridesmaid the kindergarten teacher got me looking for kid books for her, & it turns out lots of my favorite authors have written them. I'm slowly working through the 5 boxes of them in the house [down from 7 boxes]. I'm wearing lots more in the light blue-turquoise-teal range these days; they bring out my "naturally blond" [i.e., silvering] hair. I'm trying out some new conventions, and ditching others.
Then there's medical fun, enough for the whole class: diabetes, high blood pressure, thyroid meds, arthritis meds, the recent root canal [6 parts; apparently I'm now a Rocky franchise ;(], the finally-over 3-week bronchial inconvenience. Then there's the blood pressure med that makes me sun-sensitive. No problem in fall & winter, but what in the worlds will I do about walks in the 7 months of summer we have here? I sweat too much to wear sunscreen on my face. I have a lovely, wide hat [that amplifies my voice, with acoustic weirdness], but would rather not live with sweaty, flat hat hair for months on end. Still, if it means getting our walks in, I'll be doing it. I'd not miss those.
All in all, a transitional, liminal time, with some definite inconveniences, but also some promising possibilities.
How are y'all re-inventing yourselves these days?
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Date: 2017-03-01 03:22 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-03-01 03:33 am (UTC)When do you actually retire?
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Date: 2017-03-01 06:40 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-03-01 12:59 pm (UTC)Speaking of which, a few years back, Martina McBride & Pat Benatar were on "Crossroads" together, enjoying and performing each other's songs. There're several videos from it here: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=cmt+crossroads+martina+mcbride+and+pat+benatar+
Here's Dolly Parton & Melissa Etheridge: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=cmt+crossroads+dolly+parton+and+melissa+etheridge
I hope those tracks help with the move.